Family

Jim Stitzel

I dabble a little in a lot of things — writing, webcomics, gaming, photography, web design, music, and more. I’m a full-time code-wrangler with far, far too much to do.


One of the most amazing things to me is the way the Ficlatté community (and Ficly before it) has become a sort of surrogate family to me over the years. I've come to feel like everyone here is special to me in one way or another, and many of Ficlatté's denizens have become, if nothing else, Facebook friends outside of this site.

I know we all write for various reasons, depending on our focus, our preferred genres, or even just on what's happening in our lives at a given moment. Many of the stories that appear here are autobiographical, rather than fictional, and almost without fail we rally around each other and lift each other up when times get tough. We are friends -- and family -- and we share a bond together that's hard to understand without being a part of it. I know I've tried describing it to others who aren't members here and am met mostly with blank stares of incomprehension. But it's true. You all are family to me, and I think there are many others who share the same sentiment.

As such I publicly invite anyone going through dark times to feel free to reach out to me if you need someone to talk to. Send me a note so we can connect more directly. I've gone through some dark times in my life myself, and I know how brutal it is to go through the darkness alone. No one should ever have to do that. I'm happy to listen and support where I'm able and mostly be there as a light in the darkness to help you get through it. And I know I'm not alone in that sentiment. We're family. Reach out to each other and support one another.

Eventually, Ficlatté will have its own forum, where connecting and talking and sharing will be easier to do as a community. In the meantime, use the Notes we have to connect more deeply and intimately with one another. We're a family, and families support one another.

Be encouraged, my friends, know you have support and are loved here, and most of all, keep writing.


Comments (6 so far!)

ElshaHawk LoA

ElshaHawk LoA

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 THIS. Especially the part about where people on the 'outside' have no idea how this is even possible, but as a long time veteran with many friendships on many different levels formed this way, let me say it's 100% true.

  • #2685 Posted 1 year ago
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Jae

Jae

This community has always been a go-to when I can't express myself in other ways. Having the listening ear, knowing someone else knows the difficulties about which I write, those ease the hardship and salve the soul in a way that is indeed very hard to understand from an outside point of view. I'm the first to admit that much of what I write is a shrouded form of autobiography. It helps me cope, and without it I would never have met the responders who have generously offered support and encouragement when I needed it most.

Thank you all, so much, for helping keep this place alive.

  • #2699 Posted 1 year ago
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Robert Quick

Robert Quick

Agreed!

  • #2709 Posted 1 year ago
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slapdashmonuments

slapdashmonuments

This is a beautiful message which I endorse and agree with, and you are all beautiful people I have lots of affection for. I offer the same, not to compete with anyone but just because I would love to help if I can. Hugs are always offered.

  • #2718 Posted 1 year ago
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ElshaHawk LoA

ElshaHawk LoA

COMMENT PEOPLE

I can't get people to stay on here because no one is commenting on anyone's stories. The mark of an active member is the comments. Speak up! Critique! Reply!

Get a 2 to one ratio on you comments to stories, AT LEAST.

If you want to call this a family, you've gotta ACT like a family. We can't ONLY express ourselves and HOPE someone says nice things. SAY THE NICE THINGS!! It starts with YOU.

Wanna make new friends?? GO TALK TO PEOPLE. Nicely. With friendliness. With WELCOME.

  • #2802 Posted 1 year ago
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Jim Stitzel

Jim Stitzel

I'm actually planning to write up a post soon on this very topic, Elsha. The community only grows if its members are active, and I've noticed we tend to go in fits and starts lately. It's hard to build up the momentum again that we had over at Ficly.

  • #2811 Posted 1 year ago
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